Mindful Monday; Engaging in Mindful Conversations
This Mindful Monday I felt it was a good time to focus on the art of engaging in mindful conversations. I am not sure if it is a result of more time spent on social media, or the result of a fast paced, instant gratification society, but we have moved away from this practice. I witness more and more interrupting, gossip, spreading of misinformation, and hurtful words entering into everyday conversations. It is easy to fall into, but it is something we can work on changing.
Understand Your Intention
Before engaging in a mindful conversation, check in with yourself to understand your intention. Is it to share information in your life and hear about theirs? Is it a work related conversation? Or perhaps your conversation is regarding a difficult topic in which there is disagreement to be worked out. Being aware of your intentions will help you stay on track, being mindful of the target.
Always listen fully, being present in the moment while the other person speaks. Do not focus on your response, there will be time for that if you are practicing mindful conversations. If you are unclear of what the other person is saying, ask for clarification. It is always best to fully understand before responding rather than making assumptions and reacting. Practice pausing to allow the other person to complete their thoughts without interruption, you will have an opportunity to respond. Embrace the awkward and uncomfortable pauses. Use the space to fully form your thoughts and words.
Choose Your Words
For mindful conversations, you need to choose your words with love, kindness, and compassion in your heart. Is there untruth in what you are about to say? (Do you know for CERTAIN?) Are your words pertaining to someone else? Would they be ok with hearing what you are sharing about them? Could your words be hurtful to someone? If any of these pertain, rethink your words. If they have already passed through your lips, retract them and ask to clarify what your intentions were. Your words are a direct reflection of your character – be aware of them! Choose words that come from a place of love, kindness, and compassion. Those words will be your legacy and will help shape the world around you.
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